Do y'all remember when I blogged in April about Ace's brat bruise? Well, this "phase" has just taken a very, very ugly turn.
When my son is told "no," or has something taken away from him, he can turn from perfectly pleasant child to a rage-filled monster. If that thing is given back to him (I'll explain in a moment), the switch is flipped off.
This morning, his physical therapist dared to make him do physical therapy. Nothing too difficult, just having him stand up from a crawling position. Every time she'd make him do it, he freaked out. At one point, he started smacking his face against the ground. She asked me if he did that all the time and I said "for at least six months" and she seemed surprised. Mind you, she's worked with children for over 30 years. She isn't surprised by much.
How did it take a turn for the ugly, you ask? He started making the "ouch" cry instead of the "I'm a turd" cry, and I looked at him and realized he'd actually bloodied his own nose. He smacked his head on the ground so hard that he bloodied his nose. He fell face-first off the bed once and didn't bloody his nose.
Later, I took him by my mom's office in his costume (pictures to come) and she gave him bubbles. When I went to put him in the car, I took the bubbles away from him so I could buckle him in, fully intending to give them back and telling him "I'll give them right back" and his whole body stiffened up, he started screaming, and smacked himself repeatedly in the face. When I finally wrestled him into his car seat, I gave him back the bubbles and he stopped immediately and said "thank you, Mama."
I don't care what anyone says, this is not normal. This is not a phase. This is disturbing behavior.
Before I had a child, I thought that saying no and not giving in when a child wants something would prevent this kind of behavior. They would know that no means no, so escalating wouldn't do anything for them. This has not worked for my son.
I'm a little scared because preemies have a much higher propensity for behavioral issues than full-term children. His physical issues are really no big deal. Seriously. Behavioral issues? THAT will be a whole nother story. Behavioral issues mean drugs and a whole lot more patience than I have. People judge you for your child's behavioral issues. I will throw poop at their heads. I have behavioral issues too.
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