It always irks me when I see someone say that marriage is no different than having a long-term partner. It irks me when I see long-term relationship and marriage in the same category.
I made a promise to God to love, honor, and obey my husband for the rest of my life. A promise to God, people. I, a lowly human, made a promise to the creator of the universe. I also made a promise to my friends and family. I promised everyone in attendance at my wedding that I would love, honor, cherish, and obey my husband for the rest of my life. I also made a promise to Drew himself that I'd love, honor, cherish, and obey him. In case y'all are counting, that's a whole crazy mess of promises. I would fight tooth and nail to honor that promise.
In case that's just words to y'all, I also signed a legally binding contract stating that I'd stay with my husband. The ramifications of breaking that contract are numerous, and are nothing to be scoffed at. The law is NOT on your side when it comes to divorce.
A long-term relationship, while fancy and good, has none of those benefits, none of that commitment. Being with the same dude for 10 years is NOT the same as a promise to God, their family, their friends, or the state that they'll stay together for the rest of their lives. Where is the long term, enduring commitment in a boyfriend? There would be a costly divorce and a broken promise to God himself if my husband were to want to leave me - not to mention a hard-core butt-whuppin' from every member of my family and a few of my friends. If a woman's boyfriend wants to leave her, well, that's the breaks. Nothing's binding him to her at all. There is no commitment in a boyfriend, neither tangible nor in the form of a promise.
Why do people not differentiate between the two? Even if you don't believe in God, or couldn't care less about sacred vows, doesn't the whole marriage license thing bring a relationship to a whole nother level that is so far beyond a boyfriend or girlfriend?
And that's it for today's episode of "What's Got Stacey's Panties in a Bunch."
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