Sunday, January 11, 2009

required reading

Everyone who is a stay-at-home mom, or knows a stay-at-home mom, or has been a stay-at-home mom needs to read this article.


Watercolor said...

Yeah. That's why it is bitter sweet when friends have kids. You are happy for them but know you'll never hear from them again.

ThePreemie Experiment said...

So very well said! I'd be able to add a few more to that list. Doctors visits, med management, scheduling medical tests, and to top it all off.. homeschooling too.

I have a former friend who is just like the person in that article. That's why we are no longer friends.

Alice said...

Hope you feel better!

mrs. misenar said...

i wonder what smart woman sent you this article????


Sharon said...

AWESOME article. Thanks for linking to this. I hadn't seen that, but so glad I read it now. :)
I should make a copy of this and have it ready for the people who ask what I do all day. lol

Sandi said...

This does not just apply to SAHMs. Working moms have the same issues, with a career thrown into the mix. Without contributing to the snit of the singleton who wrote the question, for moms who work, a child who's up all night sick doesn't mean you can slack at work the next day. Office demands on you don't stop if, say, your little one is running a fever at daycare and you have to go get her. And unless you have a hubby who can take over every now and then, social life as you knew it is absolutely over. Period. No movie nights. No dinner out unless it is "kid-friendly." Certainly no bar hopping. You do not even have a first name anymore.

I'll stop.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, thanks for the well-written article. But know that the same could be said for all moms of small children.

(ha! my capcha is "restwe." Yeah, right)

From the Doghouse said...

That's not even a stay-at-home mom thing, that's just a parent thing. Not often you see one of these types of columnists call it that harsh (or accurately).

mayberry said...

Being a parent is hard. Period. Good article. And kudos to what Sandi and DH said.

i'm black betty said...

i agree with the article, but also feel it goes in line with working moms, too. if you're a mom, you're busy. end of story.


Jen said...

Stacy-you ROCK!

SH said...

I'm new here...a friend sent me here to read this article and I was a few sentences in when I wanted to strangle the sweet friend in "Tacoma, Washington" Yes, all parents work hard but if you are a parent who works outside of the one questions what you do all day...ever. And I mean no offense what so ever...but if I'm up all night with one of my kids...I don't get to slack at work the next day either.
PS Love the blog, look forward to "catching up"

RhondaLue said...

I love it. I don't even respond to people anymore when they ask what I do all day. Nope. I don't mention that I run my dishwasher 3x/day and that I have about 15 loads of laundry per week (20 if I do bedding!) or that cooking and cleaning for my family can take ALL my time if I cook healthily and clean well!

People just don't get it. And that's ok. I laugh and say " I eat bon bons and watch soaps..what do YOU do all day?" and then I hang with people that understand that 10 minutes of adult conversation is like manna from heaven.

Aidan's mom said...

Agree agree agree with the article and your viewpoint Stacey.

I had always intended on being a working mom, but...then preemiedom hit and we decided for me to stay at home.

Wow!!! I had NO idea how much work this is! Fun to be sure because I get to do lots with my kid, but also very tiring because I get to do lots with my kid.

And the hardest thing I found to deal with is there just aren't a lot of mental breaks during the day. At least if I worked, I might get a half hour off for lunch and get to go talk with a friend.

And the one I really didn't think about...I don't often get to leave my job. DH commented to me that I probably find it harder to relax at night because I am still *at* my job.

I think all moms have it tough to be sure. But I think society generally has more "respect" for working moms and a lot of people believe that SAH moms have a lot of free time on their hands.