What do you consider to be true independence?
While I am the woman every die-hard feminist scorns, I still consider myself an independent woman because I possess the ability for survival without direct dependence on other people. I lived on my own for a while before marrying Drew and did fine. Needed to borrow a fiver every once in a while to go out to eat with friends, but whatevs, I paid them back in due time.
As a stay-at-home mom, I have obvious dependencies on Drew. However, I'm pretty confident that if he were to pass away or trade me in for one of the younger, skinnier models that high schools keep churning out and then mysteriously pass away, I'd be able to survive easily without having to move in with my parents or something like that.* Also, should he lose his job and have a rough time finding another one right away, I'd be able to seamlessly transition back into the work force.
I think I consider true independence to be the ability, demonstrated or latent, to survive on one's own without dependence on someone else. (Job notwithstanding.)
*I think I need to clarify... There is no shame in having to depend on one's parents or friends or rich uncles to get by in tough situations. When you're doing it because you don't want to get a job and are just a lazy, shiftless, unambitious blight on society, you should be ashamed of yourself.
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