WARNING. I'm using some profanity in this post, because I'm really quite annoyed right now. If you're offended by PG-13 language, best to move on.
I kinda think that the worst part about having a child with a disability is the way the world around them reacts. If children weren't total jerks that turn into adults that are total jerks, I would have considerably less anxiety about Ace growing up with cerebral palsy. However, since I was one of the little bitches in high school that made fun of the kids in special ed, I know I will face karmic retribution in the form of some little bitch making fun of Ace.
Let it be known that I will tear that little bitch's world apart, and you can all come visit me in the big house.
A woman I know online, "S," took her child out for a walk. Her child has cerebral palsy and is in a brand-spanking new wheelchair that he loves showing off. A kid in her neighborhood called her kid a "retard." Twice. (Let it also be known that I HATE that word, and cringe anytime someone uses it derisively.) Kid's mom defends kid, says S is actually the one with the problem. S walked away, crying.
I would have messed someone up. I have been in screaming matches before with people that I felt were treating their children poorly... you wanna treat MY kid badly? Drew would have to pull me off of someone.
I understand that I have to be the example Ace sees, and that eventually my reactions to these situations will become his reactions. I have thus far dealt with inquisitive people well because I want very much to educate everyone I come across - their inquisitiveness is not a negative thing. Sometimes I don't have a lot of time to explain prematurity and brain bleeds and spastic diplegia and AFOS, etc, but I will explain as much as time allows. (Also as much as the situation allows, since my explanations tend to involve my entire body and be fairly animated.)
I only hope that on the day I deal with someone calling my kid a name, insulting him because of matters beyond his control, God will give me the strength not to fly off the handle, as is my nature.
Reading S's message got me all riled up. S was on such an emotional high about her kid's wheelchair, only to face this. People who find themselves in situations they don't understand and turn to deliberate ignorance just seriously piss me off. Make an effort to educate yourself on all sides of an issue before making yourself look like a total douche.
Oh, and DON'T LET YOUR KID CALL OTHER KIDS NAMES. Frick.
1 month ago